Christian Singles and Married Life

The rate at which young marriages fail is alarming. Many marriages hardly go beyond 5 years and this results in psychological and social mishaps. Young marriages can fail for various reasons. Here are some common factors that contribute to the failure of young marriages:

1. Lack of maturity: Young individuals may lack the emotional maturity and life experience necessary to handle the challenges and responsibilities of marriage. They may struggle with communication, conflict resolution, and decision-making, leading to increased marital problems.
2. Unrealistic expectations: Young couples often enter marriage with idealistic expectations based on romantic notions or societal pressures. However, the realities of marriage, such as financial burdens, household responsibilities, and the need for compromise, can be overwhelming and lead to disappointment.
3. Financial difficulties: Many young couples face financial challenges, such as limited job prospects, student loans, or unstable income. Financial stress can strain a marriage, causing conflicts and disagreements over money management.
4. Lack of compatibility: Young individuals may not have had enough time to fully explore and understand themselves, their values, and their long-term goals before committing to marriage. As they grow and change, they may discover incompatibilities with their partner, leading to marital dissatisfaction.
5. Limited support networks: Young couples often have limited support systems compared to older couples. They may lack the guidance and mentorship needed to navigate the complexities of marriage successfully. Isolation and lack of social support can increase marital strain.
6. Infidelity: Young individuals may be more prone to explore or experiment outside of their marriage due to curiosity or a desire for new experiences. This can lead to infidelity and trust issues, ultimately damaging the relationship.
7. Emotional immaturity: Emotional development continues well into adulthood, and young couples may struggle with managing their emotions effectively. Immaturity can lead to impulsive decision-making, frequent mood swings, and difficulty maintaining a stable and healthy relationship.
8. Limited life experiences: Young individuals may have limited life experiences outside of their marriage. They may feel a sense of missing out on personal growth or exploration, which can create resentment or a sense of being trapped in the relationship.

It’s important to note that not all young marriages fail, and there are many successful marriages that started at a young age. The success of a marriage depends on various factors, including the individuals’ commitment, communication skills, willingness to grow together, and external support systems.

‘It may not be the will of God for me to get married ‘ is the conclusion of many Christians who are still single especially when age is telling on them. I have good news for you if you are in this category. I believe that as a Christian you believe in the Bible as the word of God because I will use it to show you how much God Himself wishes the best for you. Let’s look at:

1. PLAN OF GOD FOR HIS PEOPLE. In Genesis chapter 2 verse 18, ”And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him”. This reveals that being alone without a life partner is something not good in the sight of God and has not planned for anyone to remain single throughout life. If you think that it is the of God for you not to marry, know that it is not. Age is not a factor for God so you must not despair and give up. You have to believe in God and trust Him for His plan and promises for you. There is no need to fret. There is no need to be worried. God will not fail, He will not decline from His promise that you will not remain alone.
2. PROMISE OF GOD TO HIS PEOPLE. In Genesis 2:18 as quoted above God said He will make a help meet for the man. That is a promise. God never fails to fulfill His promise. He is still in the business of making help meet for His people. He does exactly what He says He will do and nothing anywhere can hinder him and no one can stop Him. God can do what He had promised. Do you think God wants you to remain single? No. He will make and sends your life partner to you, at the appropriate time. Despite God’s promise and power to fulfill what He had said, why am I still single? This answer will a topic for the next or future write-up. So watch out